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Friday, August 13, 2010

I don't like it

Breastfeeding that is. I just don't like it. I feel as though I don't do anything else besides feed Collin. He wants to nurse sometimes every hour. I feel so guilty if I stop but this just isn't for me. I started pumping last night but have only got a total of 3oz. I know it will keep coming and I'm hoping pumping will do the trick. Until then... I'm still breastfeeding. Talk me down girls... tell me not to go towards what's easiest- formula. Not that there's anything wrong w/that but I was just so dead set on bf that I'm really letting myself down if I stop after 1 1/2 weeks. I know I just need to give it time.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Congrats, Jayme!! Hang in there! You say formula is easier, but let me tell you--IT'S NOT! Yes, others can feed the baby, but in the middle of the night it is so much easier to just whip out your breast than make a bottle. Plus, formula is expensive and leaves you with A LOT of dirty dishes. If there is any way you can continue breastfeeding, you should! I know it's hard, but it will get easier. It really will!

Robin said...

Jayme... Hang in there. I remember when Alli was just a few weeks old going through the same thing. I felt so gross all the time and I felt like she was on me all the time. As he gets older, you will get into more of a routine and your boobs will adjust. He won't need to feed as much and you will get more from pumping and get your life back. Hang in there if you can because the previous poster is right- washing bottles sucks, formula makes for nastier spit up and poop, and you have to warm it so there is no spontaneity. I managed to get through the tough part and nursed Alli exclusively for 10 months even with going back to work and pumping. For me knowing what I know now about her disability and the brain, I'm glad I stuck it out because it could be the reason she is doing so well. She was supplemented with formula until I quit nursing at 13 months. I never regretted sticking it out because it did get SO much easier.

E said...

Despite what everyone else says here....I hated breastfeeding. It is not for everyone. I always had low milk supply, cracked and sore nipples. When I went from bf to exclusively pumping because V is tongue tied I had a really hard time with it. I was always in pain and would be attatched to the stupid pump for 4 hours out of my day!! I couldn't go anywhere without having to disappear every 2 hours for up to 30 minutes each. So, it ended up not working for me and if I ever have another child I will NOT even attempt it because both times I did not have enough milk.

I am so much happier giving my son formula and as far as the middle of the night it is cake. I have my bottle of water ready and my cup of formula and when he wants it, I mix. There. done.

You have to make the right decision for you. I know with pumping and bf I was getting depressed and very stressed because it just wasn't working. It's not for everyone.

I bf my son for 3 weeks and then pumped for 2 months and as it turns out, he had an intolerance to my bm and regular formula that got worse and worse and ended up having to take him off of it anyway!! Right now I have hundreds of ounces stored in my freezer that he can't have.

Kari said...

Hi there!! I just wanted to say that I have 3 kids and each time during those first weeks I wanted to quit. I wanted someone to tell me to quit. With my first I stopped after 3 weeks and always regretted it. The dr told me to put him on Soy formula and I was relieved at the time for an out. Instead of changing my diet I went with the easier route....and it is easier at first. He now has asthma and allergies and he may have had that with breastmilk but I will never know. With my middle child I nursed for 6 months and with my last I nursed almost a year. It does get easier....I promise! It is hard work and you can never be fully prepared for how hard it truly is. It seemed like it would be so easy before I had kids. It is like a full time job. My husband made things easier for me by bringing me the baby and burping and changing her after I fed her on the days he didn't have to get up early. The good news is, both of my BF babies slept through the night on breastmilk at 8 weeks old. Set little goals for yourself and as your milk comes in better it will get easier. Try to shoot for 6 weeks then take it from there! You can do it! But also, do not let people make you feel bad if you choose to switch to formula or supplement with it. Your baby needs you to do what is best for you so you can be the best for him. Good luck!!!

Christina said...

Congrats at making it this long. Do not, seriously, do not beat yourself up if you aren't able to do it. I couldn't. I breast fed Annika for 4 days and pumped for 3 weeks. Then I realized that all I was doing all day was feeding her, pumping, changing her, feeding, pumping, changing and that was it. Keep going with it if you can but don't make yourself stress over it.

Also in response to some of the other comments you got breastfeeding is easier in regards to bottles and stuff but formula never caused Annika to spit up more (in fact she stopped spitting up completely on formula), she didn't have nasty poops from it and I have never heated a bottle in my life. She drinks it from the fridge.

ssbean said...

I know what you are going through. I would pump only 3ish oz total and thats after pumping for an hour and sqeezing my boobs or my mom squeezing at the same time. I don't know if you have PCOS or not, but I have read that w/ PCOS you could have low supply or over supply. I had low, and not much I could do to change it. Drink plenty of water, stay away from a bunch of sugar, eat oatmeal. If you want you can get fenugreek and blessed thissle from a vitamin store, and mothers milk tea from target. Breastfeeding is not easy and honestly it's not for everybody. But if you invested in an expensive pump then I say even if you don't actually nurse to at least pump and bottle the breastmilk. Pump as often as he eats. I think with some babies switching from bottles to breast is hard. I know Ellie kept falling asleep when I would try to nurse her. Hopefully breastfeeding will work itself out. Try to give it some more time before throwing in the towel Good luck. I wish I could advise you better, but I was very unsuccessful, seems like you have made it farther than what I did if you haven't pulled out the formula. They had me start with formula at 5 days because she was jaundice and was losing so much weight.

Jenni Halley said...

You can do it! I nursed mine, and my first one sounded like you. I was worn out, sore etc. I just resigned myself that this was my job right now, and dedicated every minute to it. About 10 days old I was thinking the same thing as you. I toughed it out and cried and did not supplement or do any pumping, just nursed nursed nursed. Around the 20 day period, it just flipped like a lightswitch and was awesome. It was worth the hell of the first 20 days to be able to nurse her exclusively. Now, I did have to do some supplementing with my other 2, so don't feel guilty or be hard on yourself. There are millions of other things you can do to show keep him healthy and take care of him besides nursing him if it isn't your thing. Good luck.

Elizabeth said...

Let me just say that you shouldn't feel as though you failed no matter what route you choose to go. Breastfeeding isn't easy- especially when you're "on call" constantly. Just try to hang in there- things will work out in the end ((HUGS))

Anonymous said...

Hang in there. You are doing the hard work now since newborns feed every 2-3 hours. Switching to formula won't make things easier since you'll still need to feed him just as often until he gains weight and the feedings stretch out longer. It's much easier to breastfeed once you get used to it since you don't have to worry about washing, cleaning, buying, and preparing bottles. You can also eventually side lie nurse where you lay down while the baby nurses. You can basically sleep through the feeding or at least lay very comfortably which is something you can't do with a bottle. Hang in there, you are sleep deprived which makes things even harder. It will get much easier when he feeds more efficiently/quickly and the feedings stretch out. Someone posted above some great advice about making small goals...one more day, one more week, etc. You'll make it and it will be worth it with the bonding time you'll have together and the money you will save. Drink lots of water...I used to drink 90 ounces of water a day and your supply should improve. Its hard but soon it will become much easier!

Brandi D. said...

Breastfeeding isn't for everyone. My son was premature and I pumped for him for over a year. When my daughter was born, my son was 2. I didn't have time to nurse her all the time and take care of him. I used formula on her and I was totally ok with that. Do what you are comfortable with. If you don't want to breastfeed, know that Collin will get all the nutrition he needs with the formula.

^J^ said...

Do what works best for you! It doesn't make you a bad mother if you decide to use formula. I'm sure b/f is very hard and it is not for everyone. {{{hugs}}}

sarahw said...

The first month is the hardest part of BFing! I remember thinking I did nothing but nurse all day long... keep at it, the kiddo will decrease the frequency of feeding soon! Also, your breasts figure it out, and the leaking, etc will go away, I promise! You can do this!!

M said...

Jayme,

Right around the 2 week mark is when I wanted to quit too. Moreso for me because my nipples hurt like heck!!!

Right around the 4 week mark is where things really clicked and nursing was great. Now it sucks but I'm not the norm and I made a few mistakes like introducing bottles too early but that's another story.

My advice, give it a few more weeks to give it a fair shot. I know you were so looking forward to nursing and I'm sorry it's not seeming as glamorous right now but it will get better. Feedings will become MUCH shorter and farther between.

And formula is NOT easier. I know BF has it's hassles like nursing bras and trying to be discreet in public but washing bottles, trying to warm a bottle while your baby is crying of hunger and the COST of formula makes it less convenient.

A has major nursing aversions and I would love to just nurse all the time but I'm stuck with being able to convince him to nurse a few times a day otherwise I pump and bottle feed breastmilk. Not fun at all, let me tell ya but it can be done if you choose to go that route.

Okay, I'm getting long winded ;) WHATEVER you decide I will support you because I know how hard nursing is.

Anonymous said...

It may get easier but it may not... breastfeeding is not so simple for everyone. I bf and then pumped with Maddi for 10 weeks because it was so agonizing to think about "quitting". My milk supply was never adequate so I had to use formula to supplement anyway. With Izzie I was able to breastfeed for about 3 weeks fairly easily and then she wanted more than my body made. I pumped for a week and decided that I was not going to torture myself this time around and I switched to just formula. I think that your baby can sense when you are stressed and upset. It is such a hard decision, but my advise to everyone that is struggling is not to put yourself through absolute hell and misery- formula is an okay choice too. Happy mommy = Happy baby! And by the way... Maddi who had breastmilk for 10 weeks struggled with asthma, acid reflux, chronic ear infections and even had rsv; izzie (who I only breastfed for 3 weeks) has never been sick. I am not saying that breastfeeding is not wonderful; but formula is just as good.

AJ48 said...

I was going to write you and tell you pretty much the same thing that a lot of the other women posted! LOL

If you can stick with it great! (it does get easier) but if you cant and you go onto formula - dont feel bad!

I pumped for a long while and had a reserve that lasted me for about 2 months...so thats an option as well. I made it just shy of her 6 months.

Hang in there...