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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Daycare vs. babysitter

I'm having quite a delima w/this. A good friend of mines mom babysits and comes highly recommended so I really wanted her to be our babysitter. She only lives a block away too. Unfortunately she's at her max and can't accept us. Shit. So now I have to figure out what I'm going to do. I don't really know of any other babysitters in town but I do know of a really good day care that my bro's kids go to and a girl from work. They both really like it there. I'm just not sure if I want to take the daycare route or not. On the other hand I'm not sure if a babysitter is the right direction either. Decisions, decisions. Please give me your thoughts on this ladies!

The ins. hoopla is getting taken care of. Finally. What a bunch of crap though. And freaking stressful!

I'm officially in the 2nd tri! Holy shit I can't believe that... My bump is getting pretty out there. I'll be taking my 14wk pic tonight and hope to get that uploaded for you all.

Please take a few min to go over to Allison's blog. She's going though some rough times right now... ((((HUGS))) to you Allison.

16 comments:

Richelle & Mike said...

Hey Jayme, not sure if you saw my post about my babysitter or not. But I found her through the website www.care.com. Maybe you'll have better luck than I did. I also did find a wonderful lady there she was just out of my price range. Just a thought. Otherwise I'd post on fac.eboo.k and see if any of your other friends no of anyone. Will your friends mom still be at her max come next winter when you go back to work??? That's still awhile away remember. Good luck!

~*JaYmE*~ said...

Thanks Richelle. I looked on care.com and ya.. there are 3 in my area, not one would I have watch my child! OMG this is going to be so hard. I just wish I could stay home and not worry about it! My friends mom is only allowed 3 children under 30mos and she said it will be quite a while before they are older than that but will let me know if something changes. I told her it wouldnt be until the begining of Oct. Hopefully she'll be able to do it! I also called a diff day that I know the owner of and we are going to take a tour there. I've heard great things about it but I've also heard they are really expensive! I hope your sitter works out. What a mess!!

ssbean said...

Ok, I was going to recommend going to www.care.com too, but I see Richelle has already suggested that. So, I guess thus far you have 2 recommendation for that site. It cost $30 to see contact info, but it's well worth it. I haven't had to go that far just yet, but from what I saw I really like it and will do that if/when we need it.

^J^ said...

J's aunt used to have a daycare and his mom was the director, so I wouldn't have minded leaving my kids there( had I had kids). If you decide on a daycare just make sure you are 100% ok with the place and definitely take a tour before hand. I hope you find someone/someplace that you trust.

Christina said...

I prefer daycares for a few reasons.

1, they're licensed and insured. Someone from the state "pops" in to be sure everything is going good and everyone has to do continuing education.

2, there is more than one person available to take care of the kids if needed (they have a few people that "float" from room to room if they need more help)

3, there are no weirdos (such as friends of the babysitter or strange relatives) popping in and out. It's secure and safe.

4, Annika is with kids her own age and only kids her own age. There aren't any 3 year olds running around smacking babies!

Robin said...

I, personally, would vote for the babysitter. That seemed more like a natural home environment to me. But, the only issue you have there is that if the babysitter gets sick then you're stuck. A daycare is good too if you like their infant program. You just want to look for a low ratio. If/When I get my BFP we will be using the daycare at Allison's school for our next little one. You could also consider starting at the daycare and then switching to the in home sitter once the lady has availability?

The bottom line is- just do what feels right!

Tanya said...

I'm not going to tell you which is better as it varies for everyone. However, I had a babysitter who was very respectable, abuse my children. We had to go through CPS, DFS and other avenues and because my son was 4 and wouldn't testify when asked questions...her license wasn't taken away, just a bad mark on her record...

Anyway, I think of it like Daycares have way more than 1 worker to "watch" each other and tend to be more organized as far as documenting everything. In babysitter home, they are the only one working and there is no telling what is going on.

Like I said, my case is not likely for many, but I do prefer Daycares over babysitters... Ideally, I love when you have family and close friends to help out.

Elizabeth said...

We were going to go the daycare route because I just felt more peace of mind than with a babysitter. However your situation is different since you know the babysitter. While my daughter is taken care of by her dad til he finds employment we were going to take her to the ILs because there's no way we could afford daycare. But I did have a daycare in mind which I felt was best after calling around. Check it out- see what you think and if you like the environment, the people, etc.

There was this one place I checked out that while it was cheap gave me the creeps. Now it was a church based daycare but I didn't really like the idea of a worker there telling my child that they don't like what they're doing (if they were being bad) but still love them.

Elizabeth
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E said...

Any family that can babysit for you?

Steph O. said...

I've never had to look at it from the parent side. But I've worked as both a private babysitter & in a daycare. I would say to be super picky about whereever you put your baby. There are pros & cons to both.

Can you ask the close friend if there's anyone she'd recommend?

Misty Dawn said...

No idea girl . . I can't even think about that right now for all the IF rattling around in my head. I sure hope you are able to fig something out.

Birdee said...

I chose a daycare vs babysitter for a couple reasons.
One - We have one of the best daycare centers in our area, expensive - yes, but the best!
Two - Daycare centers can't call in sick, if a care giver calls in sick, they just adjust the schedule and I can still bring my baby. Babysitters, if they call in sick, go on vacatiion or what ever, you have to find someone else to watch your baby and you usually still have to pay for that day, then pay to have someonw else watch your baby, just such a hassle.
Three - The center I chose is Highly regulated by corporate management, not by an individual. They are constantly monitored with every stinking move they make. From how they warm their bottles, to how they dress, to how they sanatize, to how babies sleep, the amount of activities required in a day. Their restraint system is awesome (No restraints other than cribs for the infant room), they dont have high chairs, swings or anything that restrains babies. They regulate everything they eat, the diapering process, how they act toward the kids which is constantly watched, (Constantly meaning there are are windows to the rooms for management and parents to see what's going on at any time, and usually more than one caregiver in a room)
I also love how the facility I take him to has each age group separated, the infants are in their own room, the one year olds in another room, the two year olds in another room and so on. I don't like the idea of a 1 or 2 year old (who just hasn't learned yet) smacking my baby on the head while the caregiver is making lunch or something. This facility has a staff for making and delivering the food so the kids are never left unattended.
Sorry so long winded, I've had plenty of experience with different kinds of care with my first and I knew what I wanted for my second. Mostly - peace of mind and the ability to go to work everyday. Not to mention - he's close to my work (doesnt matter how close to home a baby sitter is, I'm not close to home during the day) and I drive there (1 mile away from work) every day to nurse him on my lunch. I Love That!
Finding a good babysitter can be stressful.

Candi said...

In today’s society, there are many benefits of hiring a nanny:

1. COST. If you have two or more children, it may be cost effective for you to hire a nanny as many daycare centers can cost you more. Also, many families are using “nanny share”. This is an arrangement in which two families share one nanny. This cuts down on costs but you still experience the benefits of having a nanny.

2. HEALTH OF THE CHILDREN. You may have healthier children by keeping them away from the large groups of children typically found in daycare. Germs are easily spread from child to child, so daycare centers can be breeding grounds for every cold and flu of the season. When your children contract illnesses, it takes an emotional toll on both you and your children. Further, they may miss school, you may miss work, and you may incur expenses associated with doctor’s visits and medications. Your children’s exposure to germs, and thus the risks discussed here, can be dramatically diminished by simply using the services of a nanny.

3. WORKPLACE PRODUCTIVITY. If your children are sick, many daycare centers will not accept your children. However, if you have a nanny, you can still go to work as the nanny will stay home with the children. Further, if you have an attentive nanny at home with your children, you will be less likely to feel like you just can’t concentrate at work due to concern for your children. By staying focused at work, your workplace productivity remains high.

4. HOME WORKLOAD DELEGATION. A nanny can help you maintain work/life balance. For example, a nanny can be an extra pair of hands helping with household duties such as laundry, errands, transporting children, and starting the evening meal. This allows for more quality family time when the parents arrive home. No need to rush in the morning to get the kids out the door for daycare or school: a nanny is an extra pair of hands in the morning.

5. PEACE OF MIND. Daycare centers have staff turnover. Parents are not typically involved in the staff recruitment and selection process at their children’s daycare center. Therefore, you never know, on a day-to-day basis, who may be watching your children in a daycare setting. If you hire a nanny, however, you know in whose care your children are. You interviewed the nanny, performed background checks on her, and hired her yourself...http://tinyurl.com/yakn7ws

Anonymous said...

We use to have a problem if our babsitter wasn't available, but we were able to find 3-4 really good sitters through an online service (like care.com) that was free.

mk said...

Hey Jayme! I'm not sure if I'm supposed to respond on my blog or yours, lol, but yes, this is Megan from webmd from way back. I kinda fell off the board bc I was struggling with all the triggery posts and needed a break but I have been following everyones blog from a distance still n just recently redid mine! But I'm so excited that you got a bfp and a precious LO on the way, your going to be a great mom and your LO will be adorable! I can't wait to see your new belly pics and find out the gender. Enjoy your pregnancy, it will be over before you know it! "your gonna miss these days"

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